Perfect Cupcake Frosting and Filling

This Perfect Cupcake Frosting and Filling is known as Ermine Frosting, or sometimes referred to as boiled milk frosting, because it begins with a cooked roux of flour and milk.  That might sound incredibly strange for a frosting recipe, but trust me!  I’d say it’s the perfect frosting.  It’s not so thick and sweet that you need a gallon of milk to get it down your throat. It’s mild and smooth, and light as air. I also love it because it doesn’t take away from a good cupcake like other really rich frostings can.  It’s often the traditional frosting used with Red Velvet Cake. This frosting has a similar taste and texture to a Swiss Buttercream, but with way less effort.  Try this unique frosting recipe and you’ll be hooked!


 

amazing vanilla frosting

Ingredients Needed

This is just a preview of ingredients and method, keep scrolling for full printable recipe.

  • All purpose flour
  • Milk – Whole milk is best, but I’ve used non-fat when it’s all I’ve had and it actually does work ok as well.
  • Butter – Use real butter here!
  • Granulated sugar
  • Vanilla extract – Or other extract or flavoring oil of choice.

How to Make Perfect Cupcake Frosting and Filling

Step 1: Make the Cooked Flour Base

  1. The frosting starts out with a mixture of all purpose flour and milk. And even though I’m showing it here being whisked together, I’ve actually found you’ll get a much smoother result if you mix this part in a blender first and then pour it in your pan.
  2. Now comes the weird part.  You’re going to cook this mixture until it gets thick–it happens fast and you’ll want to have a rubber spatula and constantly smash/stir it to keep it smooth. I usually take it off the heat when it looks like this photo above.  There are still some wet spots but as you stir it all comes together like this: Don’t taste it.  It’s not frosting yet!  Pop it in the fridge; it needs to cool completely (I sometimes pop it in the freezer if I want it to cool fast.)  Put it in a bowl and smoosh it around and stir every few minutes to cool it off.

Step 2: Mix it up!

  1. When the flour mixture is chilled, place some real, high-quality butter (definitely no margarine) and granulated sugar (not powdered sugar!) in a stand mixer.  Whip it up for a few minutes so it’s light and creamy.  I use the whisk attachment on my Kitchenaid, but any paddle should work. 
  2. Then you’ll add that glob of flour.  I know.  Weird! I’m warning you right now it’s going to look weird at first.  Like, what the heck did I do weird.  But keep going.  You’ve got to whip it for a long time for all the sugar to dissolve and everything to come together.  Don’t be startled if it looks curdled.  Eventually it will look like fluffy soft clouds of heaven. I usually give it a little taste and if I can still feel quite a bit of granulated sugar I keep on whipping.  Sometimes it takes 5 minutes, other times I let it go for almost 10 or so!  It’s worth it for this silky, fluffy, magical mixture.   Pipe it or spread it or fill it or whatever.  Anyway you eat it, it’s fantastic.  
amazing vanilla frosting

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I use brown sugar instead of granulated sugar?

Yes. Brown sugar gives this frosting a deeper, almost caramelly flavor. Just be sure you’re using fine brown sugar (some brands like the organic one sold at Costco have quite large grains) and it may help to sift it first. When creaming with the butter, give it some extra time and make sure the sugar has dissolved well before adding the flour mixture to ensure a smooth texture.

Can I make this frosting other flavors like chocolate?

This frosting is best flavored with extracts or flavoring oils. If you are looking for similar flour-based frosting, try this Chocolate Frosting.

Can I make this ahead of time?

Yes. If making just a couple of hours before use, cover tightly and store at room temperature (if your kitchen isn’t too warm) until ready to use. You may need to rewhip it before use.

If making a day or two in advance, cover tightly and store in the refrigerator. Before use, bring to room temperature and rewhip briefly to restore texture.

Can I add food coloring?

Yes, add gel or paste food coloring (not liquid) when you add the flour mixture.

perfect cupcake frosting and filling

Perfect Cupcake Frosting and Filling

5 from 298 votes
This light, creamy, dreamy flour-based frosting is THE perfect cupcake frosting and filling!
Prep Time 15 minutes
Cooling Time 30 minutes
Total Time 45 minutes
Servings12 1/4 cup servings

Ingredients

  • 3 tablespoons all-purpose flour
  • ½ cup milk whole milk is best, but I’ve used non-fat when it’s all I have and it’s actually fine
  • ½ cup real butter slightly softened (I prefer salted, but you can use also unsalted and add salt to taste)
  • ½ cup granulated sugar 
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract or other flavor if you wish

Instructions

  • Whisk together the flour and the milk (you could also run it through the blender first). Heat in a small sauce pan on medium heat.
  • Whisk continuously until it starts to thicken. Let it cook, while stirring with a rubber spatula, until you can start to see the bottom of the pan. Continue to cook until mixture has the consistency of thick pudding or paste.
  • Put mixture in the fridge and let it cool completely; it's fine if it stays in there long enough to get chilly, you just don't want it warm at all. As it's cooling, feel free to stir it occasionally to speed up the process and keep it from forming a crust on top. You can also do this quickly in the freezer, just keep an eye on it so it doesn't freeze.
  • Using the whisk attachment on an electric stand mixer, beat the butter and the sugar for a minute or two until well combined and fluffy. While beating, add in the thickened milk mixture, any food coloring, and the flavor extracts. Beat to combine and then scrape down the sides. Mixture will separate and look messy, keep beating!  Continue beating until mixture comes together and is light and fluffy, about 7-8 minutes, but time varies.  Take a sample of frosting between your fingers; frosting is done when light and fluffy and sugar granules are dissolved.

Notes

  • Store finished frosting or frosted desserts, covered tightly, in the refrigerator. Allow to come to temperature for 20-30 minutes before serving.
  • If using frosting within a few hours of making the frosting or within a few hours of frosting cakes or cupcakes, simply cover and store at room temperature until time to serve.
  • This frosting can be soft or even melt if it gets too warm. If needed, pop the whole mixing bowl in the fridge for 15 minutes and rewhip to help it hold its shape.
  • Don’t leave frosted desserts sitting in the sun or in a warm environment for too long with this frosting or it may soften/melt!
  • Use real butter, and a good name-brand. Cheap butter does weird things.
  • If you beat for the 6-8 minutes and the mixture still looks strange, beat longer and at a higher speed if you can. It should come together, but it takes a little patience!
  • I personally think this frosting is best eaten fresh.  You can store for a few hours at room temperature, or try storing in the fridge overnight, letting it come to room temperature on its own, and then re-beating to fluff.  If you want to frost cupcakes or a cake the day before, refrigerate and just let come to room temp after.
  • Add extracts to your hearts content; lemon and almond are both wonderful! Food coloring is also okay.
  • The white sugar can be exchanged for brown. Try 1/2 white 1/2 brown for a warm caramel flavor.
  • Do not try to make other substitutions or additions. Sour cream, fruit purees etc. can do disastrous things.  Some people have had amazing success, just experiment at your own risk.  
  • If trying to decide whether or not to double it- double it.  Chances are you’ll want more.  It’s a rather small batch, but on purpose.  
  • 1 batch will not look like much, but it can spread on (just with a knife, a normal amount) 24 cupcakes.  If you want to pipe it thick, definitely double it.
  • Looking for Chocolate? This Chocolate Frosting isn’t exactly the same, but very similar!

Nutrition

Serving: 0.25cup, Calories: 112kcal, Carbohydrates: 10g, Protein: 1g, Fat: 8g, Saturated Fat: 5g, Polyunsaturated Fat: 0.3g, Monounsaturated Fat: 2g, Trans Fat: 0.3g, Cholesterol: 21mg, Sodium: 65mg, Potassium: 21mg, Fiber: 0.1g, Sugar: 9g, Vitamin A: 256IU, Calcium: 15mg, Iron: 0.1mg
Course: Decorations & Frostings, Desserts
Cuisine: Baked Goods, Decorations & Frostings
Keyword: Perfect Cupcake Frosting and Filling
Calories: 112kcal
Author: Our Best Bites
Cost: $4
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Questions & Reviews

  1. 5 stars
    I just made this frosting with coffee-vanilla two layered cupcakes and let me tell you how gorgeous they were! The frosting’s the first frosting I can stomach that has a large quantity of butter in, which is a huge thing for me. Please, please try this!

  2. Can.i ask? the 3t of flour u need to use what kind of flour?because there are so many kinds of flour!

  3. Hi
    My frosting turned out great except it tasted kind of “chalky” or “floury” to me. Am I doing something wrong?
    Thanks

  4. 5 stars
    I just wanted to take the time to tell you that I actually made this icing for my mini cupcakes a few weeks ago. It was FABULOUS. Perfect light texture that was not overbearing. I’m not much of an icing fan as it is usually too heavy and sweet. Anyone having issues with this recipe is clearly not following directions! lol Also, I think a good electric stand mixer makes ALL the difference! I made 150 mini cupcakes that were perfectly fine being stored at room temperature in a container up to a week. No cupcake went uneaten. lol I was told to open a cupcake shop! YUM. Great icing. thanks 😉

  5. So I realize that this recipe was posted a long time ago and so I’m not sure if I will get a response to this or not, but it’s worth a try. I would like to make this recipe for my husband’s birthday but I would like to use a gel food coloring in the recipe. Has anyone tried dying this icing recipe?

  6. 5 stars
    I made this and it was totally YUMMY. Thank’s for sharing this recipe. I am wondering, can we use this butterceam for cakes to be covered with fondant. You mentioned that it was better eaten on the same day. As for cake, we will need to frost the cake and crumb coat then place in the fridge, do you think this buttercream will be suitable for it. Thank you 🙂

  7. 5 stars
    I’m not a fan of buttercream (too buttery for me!) and so I’ve been looking for a good frosting recipe. I also don’t have confectioner’s sugar right now so it was great I found this. This was very good and easy to make! Mine turned out fine even though I used (& risked) margarine as a substitute since I also had no butter on hand. Will try this again next time using real butter.

    Is it ok to reduce the amount of butter and sugar? Or will it have an effect on the final product asides from the taste?

  8. Cook it until it looks like can gather together almost like a ball…it should cling to the spoon or spatula

  9. 5 stars
    Wow…I have to admit I was a non-believer! How could a flour based icing taste good?? I followed the recipe exactly as written and to my amazement I have beautiful white frosting in my mixing bowl! This really is simple to make and wonderful tasting THANK YOU SARA!!!!

  10. 5 stars
    I’m a baking FIEND (aside from a glitter addict, makeup hoarder, and shoe fiend) and food is important coming from an Italian family. This is THE BEST icing recipe I’ve ever come across, and I’m only using this when I can from now on!!

    My only change is to try and use a different type of flour that isn’t wheat for a gluten-intolerant friend of mine and hope it comes out just as scrumptious! I’ve also found that if you let the cuppies/cake sit out overnight, the frosting stiffens up considerably well and holds up great! Mine didn’t separate at all.

    During the cooking process, I used a sifter (one of those old fashioned double screened one that looks like it’s made from a coffee can, painted, and has a handle and “whirlies” inside… Though I’m sure a plain sifter that’s rather fine will work well also) to slowly add the flower to the milk in my pan, so I had no clumps at all- so I hope that helps some of you who have had trouble with clumps! And because I was super-impatient to make this frosting, I used an ice bath to cool down the milk-flour mixture quickly…. That worked great well too! I just used an offset spatula to mix it up ever 30 seconds or so.

    1. **I didn’t refrigerate my cupcakes or the frosting, they were kept room temp. Still moist and delicious!

      1. 5 stars
        Oh yeah, I added gel food coloring with no problems whatsoever… I made lemon cake, and lemon frosting to compliment it… They were absolutely divine!
        The extra is currently in a bowl that I stuck it in, with a spoon that I’m taking a few nibbles from… It’s JUST SO GOOD!!!